When you celebrate the funeral of one who is so close to your own age - it causes you to stop and think about your own mortality...
When you celebrate the funeral of a Baby - you ask all kinds of questions, and cry out to God - Why? How is this right? what is hoing on? It is just not fair!
When we bury a child - we realise that this is not the way it normally is, a parent is not supposed to bury a child, flesh of your flesh, and bone from your bone. There are words we have developed to describe "us" after the death of a loved one:
- When a spouse dies - we are a widow or a widower,
- When a parent dies - we are an orphan
Yet when a child dies - we have no word to associate with that situation. It is almost as if we cannot think of such a case. It is unthinkably hard to bury a child - so we have no word for it!
There is little to say - except perhaps acknowledging just that - one just lacks words to say. My hope is that those who have lost a child, or a paren, or a brother / sister - will remember also the bond of love that lies behind the pain they feel, the sorrow that comes with death.
Peace